I experienced an unhealthy, toxic relationship with my husband, Robert, which was painful and ended in a separation. The journey back from being separated was not easy, yet more than worthwhile. We both found personal healing, chose forgiveness and learned new communication skills to help us relate to one another intimately.

For me Robert, most of my life, I struggled with insecurity and a deep need for control, shaped by my upbringing and early experiences. When I entered the Evangelical Christian world at 19, I thought things would improve, and when I married Monica, I was sure our marriage would be different. But over time, I realized that my reactions—especially my anger—were deeply rooted in my fear of losing control, causing pain in my marriage.

The breaking point came when Monica asked for space, leading to the hardest yet most transformative period of my life. Through God’s grace, I found freedom in surrendering control, and Monica and I began rebuilding our relationship.

We have celebrated our 45th anniversary (in 2024) and have a deep and satisfying love, a healthy trust and a secure attachment with one another. What seemed totally out of reach became possible, AND It is possible for you, too!

Together, we eagerly mentor other couples to help them reconcile, repair and reconnect their relationship so they get to truly love, understand, accept and enjoy each other.